PEDERAST = a sexual lover of boys
CATAMITE = a boy kept by a pederast

The word "homosexual", as it is used in the Bible, delineates from this pederast/catamite relationship. It's how the Biblical use of the word "homosexual" is properly translated. It has no relation to loving gay relationships built on mutual respect between two consenting men as we know it today.

The predator-priest/victimized-altar boy scandals in our modern times is a classic example of the kind of pederast/catamite "homosexuality" that the Bible condemns.

The criteria in spotting a candidate for instruction as a catamite in ancient Greek and Roman times were any or all of these conditions...

1. Orphan - motherless or fatherless
2. Emotionally abandoned - starving for love and affection
3. Innocent - too trusting - easily manipulated
4. Curious - interested in exploring
5. Arrogant - secretly needs to be affirmed by self and others
6. Vain - secretly needs to be affirmed as desirable by self and others
7. Poor - willing to do questionable things in order to improve material life

In other words, the disadvantages and weaknesses of the vulnerable were preyed upon. I think it is fair to say that these characteristics are still sought after in making catamites today.

The practice of pederasty falls into three distinct styles.

First is the voluntary sexual relationship between an older man and a teenaged boy. The elder wants to sexually crawl all over the youthful smooth boy's body. The boy is usually after something other than... or at least in addition to... sex. Perhaps financial gifts, care, or even fatherly affirmation in exchange for sexual favors.

Second is the practice of boy-slave prostitution. The word "slavery" speaks for itself. It's usually some form of victimization against a passive boy's will. His life circumstances may cause him to feel trapped in the predicament.

Third is that of the effeminate "call boy" or prostitute. In some cultures, temple prostitutes were employed in sexual religious rites/rituals. In which case, the reward for the boy-prostitute may have been a feeling that he was being used in the service of the gods... not to mention he was probably given food, shelter, care, and an education in exchange. In a non-religious context, a prostitute is a prostitute for obvious reasons... mostly material gain.

Now that we have this bit of fundamental information out of the way, let's talk about sweet-boy Adam behind the counter of a local fast food restaurant. God is he CUTE! 16 years old and adorable as Hell!

I ordered a roast beef sandwich and a coffee "to go" in between my shifts at work a couple of days ago. Did I already mention how fucking beautiful Adam is? I'm sure I must have. Gorgeous eyes and oh what a smile!!

"Would you like cream and sugar for your coffee?" he asked.

"No thanks," I said. "Just black."

He smiled all charming like... and I smiled back.

"You drink it black," he commented. "Like a real man."

I laughed and said, "Yeah, I decided a while ago I didn't need the cream... and especially the sugar... in my diet."

In comparison to me being a "real man", he then said, "I put lots of cream and sugar in my coffee."

How can I describe all the non-verbals going on? He had such a sweet flirtatious look in his eyes when he was speaking. It was as if he was saying I was a real man... and he was not... and that made us a perfect match.

He was effeminate... not really an all-out flamer... a "flickerer" is probably the best way to describe his mannerisms. So I ventured to ask, "You like older guys"?

"Sometimes," he said smiling ear to ear. "I know I like YOU!"

16 years old. Is he a boy or a man? A boy-man I guess. All I know is if I had no standards at all, I would have taken this boy home with me.

Is Adam a "catamite"? If he is, then he would fit into the voluntary category because he was definitely coming on to me rather than the other way around.

What's the difference between a catamite and a young guy who just wants to bond with an older guy? Is the whole catamite thing judged solely upon the guy's AGE irregardless of his motives? A study of ancient Greek and Roman societies includes many pederast/catamite relationships which were bound by a deep love. What makes it right? What makes it wrong?

And am I a "pederast" for secretly wanting to fuck with him?

It's illegal to fuck around with a 16 year old. According to the law of the land, that makes it wrong. But is it always "morally wrong" in every instance? The law was made to protect minors from victimization. It could hardly be said that Adam was being victimized. Afterall, HE was making all the moves.

I decided to explore these and other questions further. I ordered my food "to go"... but instead decided to "dine in" when Adam agreed to go on break and talk with me.

Good thing Adam was so open because I really didn't have a lot of time to talk before I had to be back on the road. Talk, talk, talk... a mile a minute... telling me his entire life story... loving parents... good family life... lots of friends... good grades in school... everything was just fine and dandy... "except for my asshole uncle," he said, "but that's another story."

I slammed my foot down on the brake pedal of this fast-track conversation and asked, "Your uncle's an asshole? Why do you say that?"

"He's a perv," said Adam. "He couldn't keep his hands or his dick away from me when I was a kid. I don't know. I sorta liked it and sorta didn't at the same time, I guess. It felt kinda good to be wanted like that even if I was just a kid. I used to think my uncle was the greatest and I had something special with him."

"BINGO!" I thought to myself. He was conditioned way too early in life to associate sex with male affirmation from an older guy. Some therapists believe sexually abused boys look to repeat the cycle by "asking for it" in subtle ways from older guys later. It all becomes a complex learned association coupling sexual desire with having their youth taken advantage of.

"You kinda look like my uncle," Adam said with a laugh. "Maybe I'm just trying to relive what I had with him! Nah, just kidding. Don't get all creeped out by that. I just say weird things sometimes. I wanna hookup with you. Do you feel the same way about me?"

He may have thought he was "just kidding"... but I think there is something deeply revealing in what he said.

Adam helped me to formulate my own understanding of what a catamite actually is. It's a boy or boy-man... either willing or coerced... to be sexually used in order to get something in return. And a pederast is someone more than willing to take advantage of that situation. No wonder the Bible condemns this type of so-translated "homosexuality"!

Can real love actually form from such pederast/catamite beginnings? It probably CAN! But that doesn't mean I should go that route... on the wrong foot... taking advantage of the vulnerabilities of a sweet, adorable, fucking irresistible young boy-man. There are far more honorable ways to form a loving bond with Adam than that. That's my plan.

I am so attracted to young guys! It's just a damn good thing lust is not my motivating factor in relationships... or a pederast I would surely be!

Adam deserves better than that.